Bring back the stigma

I’ve been a bit lax on the blog front lately … I’ve had some great things come to mind, but never seemed to get the energy up to write them out. This is one of those ideas … and I may combine in one of the others here as well, since the two go together pretty well.

What set me off this time was a person calling into a radio show that said “We need to do more to remove the stigma of welfare.” I think you can see from the title I choose what my opinion of that sentiment is. What the caller was basically saying is that we should make sure that people don’t feel bad about leeching off the hard work of others, and that is NOT a sentiment that I can agree with.

But wait a minute, they’ll say, not ALL people on welfare are leeching off the system.

That’s true … there are those people who use welfare as a temporary means of support to get themselves back on their feet … and that’s what the system is for. The astute reader will realize that I didn’t say ‘Abolish Welfare’ as my title. The problem with the reasoning that we should abolish the stigma of welfare because ‘not all people are leaching off the system’ is that you are also removing the stigma from those that ARE leeching off the system.

When the welfare system was introduced it worked, and it helped a lot of people turn their lives around. One of the main reasons it worked was that people were ashamed to be on it and would work extra hard to get off of it. People still had enough pride to want to make it on their own and not need the hand outs of others.

Over the years, however, there have been those that, in their attempt to be more humanitarian, have tried harder and harder to relieve people of that ‘shame’ helping them to feel better about a situation that they didn’t have control over. The theory being that by making them feel better about themselves they would see their greater potential and strive for something greater.

The fact of the matter is, however, that in most cases that isn’t how the human mind works. Generally speaking, by making them feel better about their situation you decrease their desire to change their situation. By removing the stigma of welfare you may, in fact increase the self opinion and esteem of those on welfare, but you also remove the majority of the drive for them to remove themselves from that system.

A large percentage of the people who use the welfare system properly likely do so because of their pride in their abilities … they aren’t ‘offended’ by the stigma, they are encouraged by the stigma to get back on their feet and off ‘the system’.

Too many people are on welfare, not because they can’t find a job, but because they can’t find a job that they are willing to do, or that pays what they want, or that has the benefits that they want to have. These people CHOOSE to remain unemployed and the welfare system as it currently stands allows them to make that choice … it allows them to continue leeching off the fact that other people are working to earn the money for them to live.

‘Why should I work, I can just live of the people in the country that do work … after all they’re just lucky that they got their jobs anyway, why shouldn’t I get something out of that luck?’

To help support my point I put before you the case of Farrah Gray. For those that haven’t heard the story, the man is a true American success story. Raised in the Detroit projects, his family on welfare, Mr. Gray pulled himself up and became a millionaire by the age of 14. I recently heard an interview with him where he was talking about his new book Reallionaire, and said that it all started because he felt that there had to be something more to their situation. In essence, he was uncomfortable being on welfare, and so he worked and came up with things to do to get off of that system.

Sure, he had his setbacks, and his failures. He had people that wouldn’t take him seriously and people that told him ‘it can’t be done’. He had people that thought he was a prank caller. What made him different than the ones that failed, why did he manage? Did he know someone? Did he get lucky? No … he just didn’t give up. He didn’t think ‘why me’ he thought ‘why NOT me.’

The problem is that there are too many people in this country that don’t want to believe that hard work can pay off … they don’t want to believe that someone can work hard and get ahead. Why don’t they want to believe that? Because they don’t want to work hard … they want everything handed to them … and if someone has something that they don’t it’s because ‘they got lucky’ or ‘they knew someone’ or ‘they cheated’. They can’t believe that ANYONE can make an honest living, working hard, and get ahead, because if they believe that then the only reason that they aren’t getting ahead is their own failure to work hard for it.